I recently asked a child I was babysitting what he wanted to be when he grew up and this is how the conversation went:
“What do you want to be when you grow up?” He briefly looked up at me and shrugged, placed the slime back in the container.
“I don’t know yet.” He didn’t seem upset by saying that. He was relaxed, and that is a good thing. He wasn’t supposed to know yet. He is 9 years old.
“That’s great.” I said, he frowned at me so I continued:
“You shouldn’t know yet. You should still be dreaming of becoming a super hero and you should just be a kid.”
I often forget that at some point in our lives we didn’t care about what our next move was. The most important thing to us used to be which doll to play with or what colour to pick next. As we grew up our decisions became more difficult and as we neared the end of highschool the questions “What are you doing after this?” and “What do you want to do for the rest of your life?” got asked more and more. You were expected to know. You were expected to have some sort of plan. And that in it self created a lot of anxiety and stress.
When I go on Instagram I feel like I am the only one who hasn’t figured everything out yet. I see my friends who have degrees, are getting married or even have children and I wonder if I should be doing that too. I wonder if I should also be making those choices.
I recently realized that not knowing is okay. Not knowing what you will be doing 4 months from now is okay. Not knowing when you will get married or have kids is okay. Not knowing what you want to do for the rest of your life is okay. We always seem to rush things, like time is running out. We don’t know when we’ll die. We don’t know what will cross our paths next. And that is okay. Sometimes we just need to take a step back and let it be. Let things play out. Everything will work out in the end. When you stop forcing yourself to figure things out, things will start to figure itself out.
It is very okay not to know everything yet. Take things one day at a time. Sometimes you need to let life surprise you a little.